For many twenty somethings, moving back home with ‘the rents’ can be difficult and it can feel as if you’ve lost all your independence. But suddenly having your home invaded by your grown up children isn’t exactly a walk in the park for parents either. So in this blog post I’m letting my long suffering mum take the reigns and share her tips for letting your adult children move back in with you without losing the plot. Over to you, Mum…
I think whether or not the ‘child’ does chores is completely up to the parent, and this needs to be specified before they are allowed to move home. Jen doesn’t know where the hoover is, the dusters are, soap powder, I don’t think she even knows where the washing machine is. Only joking. I did have to teach her how to turn it on though.
I think it’s important that the son or daughter pays towards bills and food when they move back home. If Jen didn’t chip in each month I would definitely notice the difference and I would be left out of pocket. Now that she’s here there’s more washing, more food, and more showers!!!
The stuff they bring back is a nightmare. Where does it all live? Where should we store it all? Sort through everything and separate it all into different piles. I’d have a car boot pile, a charity shop pile, and a pile of stuff to go in the bin. Make sure you save anything that could be used in their new home. If there’s any pots, pans, irons, kettles etc left over from their days as a student, keep hold of it if it’s in good condition as it will save them money on the essentials when they finally move out.
While they’re away from home they can go to bed whenever they like and come home when they like. But if they start coming back really late at night on a regular basis, you might start to get annoyed. If you think that being woken up at 3am when they stumble through the door will get on your nerves, have a chat with them to let them know this is not okay. You have to put your foot down. Luckily Jen doesn’t have much of a life and she’s usually in bed by 9. Haha!
I’ve not found any yet. I’m still waiting for those. I get interrupted watching TV, in the morning Jen will shout upstairs and ask me where her coat is and where I’ve put her shoes. I just stay out the way when she’s making breakfast in the morning.
Will it be worth it in the end?
Yes. Because she’ll be leaving. Haha! In all seriousness though we’ve let Jen move back to save for a deposit on a house and that’s how were helping her. Getting a house nowadays is an investment as well as a home, and if you get the right house in the right area you can often save more money in the long run than if you rent. We like it when Jen stays at her boyfriend’s house, though. She’s not here too often.